The Agreement Frame

The treaty framework includes all the negative aspects so that the communication is generally well received. These are just things you can think about if you notice disagreements around you. Using the framework of the agreement, avoid using words such as «but,» «again» or «but,» that deny what the person has just said. They will deny everything that has been said in advance and prevent the transition to a contractual framework. Instead, use «and» or «also» that brings the two statements together. In any case, it is important that you agree with them. If not, you will be dishonest. We will soon realize how we use this framework if we do not agree with the other person. And even Benjamin Franklin liked the framework of the agreement: it is often better to avoid the word «understand.» As every human being has a different pattern in the world, it is very likely that they do not understand the other person. Being with each other or enjoying each other is quite possible! In the second example, B uses one of the aforementioned framework forms – I agree with…….. and…….. For the purposes of our example, we assume that A`s response to B`s disagreement is to feel dissatisfied (remember – the importance of your communication is the response you receive).

In the commercial or professional context, the contract framework adopts one or more of the following form combinations: in the second example B, tempo A continues by replacement, but by the framework and part of the contractual framework. The last element of the framework is to guide the person with whom we communicate towards the outcome we want, that is,. What is the contractual framework and when would you use it? I love the framework of the NLP agreement. This technique is an example of «tempo and driving» and consists simply of a series of sentences you say and a series of sentences that you avoid. Our goal is always to look for ways to build and deepen a relationship. Disagreement with people usually has the opposite effect. The treaty framework is a way to build a relationship by finding creative ways to get along with people whenever possible. Note that there is no real agreement in any of these cases, «you might be right» leaves the door open for «You may also be wrong.» Not only will you have a two-hour demonstration on how not to implement the 3 Rs, but you will also hear a lot of disagreements. Lots of examples for you to practice! The basic idea of the treaty framework is to say «yes, and» instead of «yes, but.» Saying yes is to follow (pacing).

You paraphrase or repeat what your interlocutor says. To say «and» is to lead. Then you lead with your ideas and encouragement. As a result, the Milton model still uses «and» instead of «but.» The framework of the treaty takes one of the following forms: – Good luck with the use of the NLP framework! Let me know in the comments how you apply this principle to give more respect to other people or better communicate.